I wrote this after my first date with my future-wife in August 1999.

Nuances

"Hello.  Hi."  Her name.  Often.
Human relations.  Stilt--ed.
Scary.  Ea--sy.  Meaning-less.
Awkward, anxious, all off-putting.

"Yes.  I do understand."  Find interest.  Agree.
Intermission.  Just truth.
Canned.  Waiting.  Hoping
For a moment of trust -- later.

"Thanks.  Had great fun."  Compliment.  Subtle.
Parting.  Sweet confusion.
When?  How?  Why now?
Interpret.  Ask.  Wonder.  Drive away.

"Plans?  Are you free?"  No pressure.  Grace
Discovery.  Begin.  End.
Planning, preparing, playacting
The request, the response.  Yes?

An African-American man walks toward me.  He's dressed in teal-green sweatpants and a blue and green plaid flannel shirt.  Tennis shoes are white Reeboks with touches of black, blue and purple.  His black fuzzy beard is anchored by white hair that, from a distance, appears to be a white bow tie.

He doesn't look happy grasping his pink-edged bus pass.  He doesn't particularly look unhappy.

I'm writing this and not paying attention as I cut in front of him.  I feel awkward because he doesn't know I'm scribbling away about him.  I think I'm faxcinated with color today; it seems to be what I'm writing about. 

I found a park this afternoon, right where I'd always walked past it. A three-year-old boy swung and dug with a stick that didn't seem naturally formed--man-made, you know. He reminded me of myself at age twelve. He reminded me of every boy at age twelve. But, he was three. His sister, slightly older, not more than five, maybe even only four, seemed confused, trapped in her swing for babies. She reminded me of the cruel tricks we played in our neighborhood when I was eight. She reminded me of first-graders left to twist and twits alone on the swing for babies.

Three adults present, aside from myself. I don't always consider myself and adult anyway. Dad, young, on a weekend, needing to shave, with feet bare and hair dark, not like his kids. I caught him humoring his boy who wanted to build a sandcastle lacking any tools--shovel, pail.

Grandmama, white hair robust torso, was thrilled to be with them--or thrilled to swing. Grandpa just held the next swing, pulling it back and pushing it forth, just to keep his weight shifting.

And a teenager (I'd guess sixteen) wandered around the edges of the swing area, waiting for grandpa to fall asleep or grandmama to fall off, waiting for dad to make the boy cry by not paying just the right amount of attention, waiting for a chance to get in on this childhood stuff without anyone knowing.

Josh (the three-year-old boy) wanted to go fast. Repeatedly and repeatedly, Josh wanted to go fast and go faster on the merry-go-round. Dad tried to explain centrifugal force to his little girl, using Josh as a prop.

Our teenager disappeared shortly after grandpa hobbled away after grandmama. A couple wandered over to the steps near the tire swing. He swirled his foot in the sand beneath him while she laughed at something trivial, a leaf or a squirrel.

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Oregonian, Gary Randall, has updated his Washington flock, letting them know that his Washington lackey, Larry Stickney still hasn't gotten petitions printed.  The word is that they may have received approval this morning.  We'll see.

The petition must include all of the 100+ pages of the original bill.  Hopefully this will make it unwieldy and remind people that this is not a simple yea or nay kind of bill. 

UPDATE:  Oregon Gary says the petitions are printed and picked up.  I'll let you know when I get mine. 6/6/09

Raw Story reports that conservative radio host Erich "Mancow" Muller subjected himself to 8 seconds of waterboarding before throwing in the towel, ...er, cow.   "Mancow" reluctantly called the experience "absolutely torture."  If he had the chance for a do-over, he'd pass.

Now it is Sean Hannity's turn.  Not only does Hannity believe waterboarding isn't torture, but he has volunteered to experience it.  Pundits on the left, including MSNBC's Keith Olbermann and Air America's Richard Greene, have decided to turn the yet-to-be-scheduled event into a fundraiser for a cause of Hannity's choosing--support of military families.  Olbermann has offered $1,000.00 per second that Hannity endures.  Richard Greene has been collecting pledges from listeners of Air America of $0.01, 0.10, 1.00, 10.00, and 100.00 per second.

If Sean Hannity keeps his word, we'll (at minimum) see thousands of dollars going to a worthy cause.  If Hannity bails on his promise to be waterboarded for charity, I have a feeling a lot of those dollars will make it there anyway.  If you want to, email your pledge to rgreene@airamerica.com.

Klein Sexual Orientation Grid

I scored an average of 3
I'm so not shocked.

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2

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4

5

6

Heterosexual

Bisexual

Homosexual

Meaning

This result can also be related to the Kinsey Scale:


0 = exclusively heterosexual
1 = predominantly heterosexual, incidentally homosexual
2 = predominantly heterosexual, but more
than incidentally homosexual
3 = equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 = predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally
heterosexual
5 = predominantly homosexual, incidentally heterosexual
6 = exclusively homosexual

Summary

The idea of this excercise is to understand exactly how dynamic a person's sexual orientation can be, as well as how fluid it can be over a person's lifespan. While a person's number of actual homo/heterosexual encounters may be easy to categorize, their actual orientation may be completely different. Simple labels like "homosexual", "heterosexual", and "bisexual" need not be the only three options available to us.

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An acquaintance recently came out to his mother as a bisexual man.  According to him, she all but disowned him.  She didn’t really, but that’s how he felt.

I thought back to my own coming out experience sixteen years ago.  I know going into it I feared the worst--that my family would cut me off.  I was prepared to be financially cut off, and even a bit socially ostracized.  What I didn’t think I could handle was to be emotionally shut out, disowned, abandoned. 

I called my aunt, someone I (and everyone in my family) knew to be a lesbian, to ask her advice on coming out.  When I asked how my family, and particularly my mother, responded when she came out, she surprised me by asking, “What do you mean ‘came out?’”  I suppose I got to “out” the family to her.

That call gave me some confidence.  I knew that my family loved her and supported her even when she thought wrongly that she was hiding herself.

I called my Mom.  I explained that I had dated women and I had dated men.  I wasn’t comfortable claiming the bisexual label at that point.  I waited for a response, but there wasn’t much of one.  I wasn’t expecting what I heard:

“Oh, your dad and I have been talking about this for years.”  Really?  I suppose there were all sorts of possible indicators, but my own process of discovery had only taken months, not years.  Not only was I queer, but I was oblivious to my own queerness. 

“I’ve always thought that you just liked *people* regardless of whether they were men or women.”  Okay.  My mom was not only more tuned into me than I was, but she understood the essence of bisexuality, that it wasn’t about liking men because they were men and women because they were women—it wasn’t about the dichotomy, the binary, the sex.

Fast forward to a few months later.  Life was in disarray because I was 19 years old.  I’d gone to a military recruiter, taken the ASVAB and essentially signed up to join.  I called my dad, a retired veteran, with the good news.  Aside from telling me I’d need to get in shape so that basic training didn’t kill me, he warned me, ominously, “If they ask, you will need to lie.”  Being a naïve 19 year old, the thought that my mom might continue having discussions about me with my dad hadn’t entered my mind.  “If they ask me what?”  “You know.”  “Ohhhh, you talked with mom?”

I didn’t join the military, in large part because of a surprise visit my dad made shortly after the phone call with a wonderful heart to heart conversation, and in larger part because I knew I didn’t want to join anything on the pretense of a lie.

In retrospect, I see that my parents couldn’t have responded any other way.  That’s got to make me luckier than a lot of people out there.  My parents acted with love, tolerance, acceptance and sound guidance, the way they always have. 

Beth Sheeran is an absolutely delightful woman I've met on a couple of occasions while I volunteered time in the Student Government office at Spokane Falls Community College.  She is apparently preparing to be a nurse.  She is also a leader in the student group Spokane Falls Christian Fellowship, which applied for space in the display boards of the student union building to put up a "Pro-Life" display for the benefit of students.

Now, I'm of the opinion, as I said before, that almost everyone is pro-life and anti-abortion.  Nobody really thinks abortion is a good idea.  I'm guessing that there is not a lot of agreement between Beth and I on the issue of abortion, except that we should work to reduce the number of abortions performed throughout the U.S. and the world.  I don't want to put words in her mouth because I haven't actually spoken to her about abortion (or much else, to be fair), but I'd guess she would advocate for greater legal restrictions on access to the abortion procedure.  I would not.

Beth and SFCF were denied their right, as a student group or student, to equal access to the display boards.  The administration, which really means Heather McKenzie, who rules student government as her own fiefdom, claimed that posting SFCF's display without an opposing view would constitute bias and discrimination.  They even put it on SFCF to come up with the opposing view. 

Subsequently, Heather McKenzie and the VP of Student Services ambushed the group at their planning meeting to threaten that there would be adverse action if SFCF continued with some form of their display.  They handed out Anti-Bias policy pamphlets, focusing on a "Stop the Hate" theme. 

With no other real recourse, Beth filed a lawsuit (*.pdf) against the school's trustees, president, vice-president of student services, and Heather McKenzie for violating her and other students' free speech rights.

This is the part where, "I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it" comes in.  In looking at the exhibit, I think it conjures a lot of great questions about the relationships between poverty, race, and abortion.  I might question the validity of some of the statistics and the bias of some data sources.  Even if I didn't find some food for thought in the display, there is no reason in all of fairness for such a display to be denied, especially in an academic environment.

To Beth Sheeran, I say, Go Girl!  Except that I think the lawyers from Alliance Defense Fund and the lawyers for ACLU might get in each others' way, I'd advocate for the ACLU's involvement on her behalf.  Maybe they'd be willing to file an amicus brief.  Hmmmm....

I don't think the administration of the school intended the Anti-Bias policy to be used in this manner.  I think Heather McKenzie felt threatened when Beth and the SFCF didn't back down and abused the policy, using it to bash the rights of the students and attempting to intimidate them.

Unfortunately, the obvious and most basic (and correct) response to McKenzie's threats is to point out the controversial exhibits and speakers sponsored by student groups and the student government.  This means pointing to sex-positive, LGBT-friendly, and generally progressive events and displays which have not been required by McKenzie to get an opposing viewpoint.  What McKenzie doesn't seem to understand is that you can't contain speech based on content.  Student events and displays are going to be controversial to draw an audience.  It's called free speech--and students have an especially strong right to it, especially when we disagree with the content.

 Celebrate Bisexuality Day was September 23.  January was Bisexuality Awareness Month.  And 2010, according to me, will be the Year of the Bisexual.

 

Why should you care?  Because we are everywhere.  And we don’t mind if you know it.  As a matter of fact, we are often unrecognized on the front lines and the trenches.  Sadly, sometimes we are in the closet, daring not to move outside the boxes of gay and straight.  Sometimes, we get put in those boxes in spite of modest efforts to be ‘out.’  And sometimes we are screaming at the tops of our lungs and are still misinterpreted.

 

Robin Ochs, for instance, became the first woman in Massachusetts to marry her same sex partner (okay, her spouse shares the distinction).  She is the founder of the Bisexuality Resource Center in Boston.  She was identified as a lesbian in the media in spite of repeatedly drawing reporters’ attention to her bisexuality.  By definition, the marriage couldn’t be gay or lesbian. Only one of the spouses was a lesbian.

 

Sometimes, we are placed in those boxes through omission or error.  We are easy to overlook as our agendas are similar to yours.  But, sometimes, we are squeezed into those boxes for better marketing (‘gay’ marriage plays better to the Joe and Jane America than ‘same-sex’ marriage). 

 

“Homosexual” people get cool names like ‘gay’ and ‘lesbian’ that leave thoughts of sex on the cutting room floor.  Oh, sure, we’ve tried on omnisexual (really?  omni? everything?), pansexual, ambisexual and bi-affectional, but the first three still point primarily to sex (and apparently a good variety of it) and the last makes us sound like we can be really good friends.  The ‘bi’ in bisexual (Hey Microsoft Spellchecker—there is no hyphen in the term “bisexual”) still points back to those two boxes, gay and straight, male and female.   Unfortunately, we aren’t so uncomplicated.  Even ‘queer’, while seemingly ideal, is overly broad.

 

So, we are stuck with ‘bisexual.’  Fine.  So what do bisexual people do?  Well, I wondered that too.  So I found some.  We got together at Coffee Social (new, organic, eco-friendly, queer/poly-friendly).  We drank some great Doma coffee and played dominoes.  Apparently bisexual people are easy to please after all.

 

What I really found was that we were an eclectic group with varied ages and interests.  And it wasn’t the coffee or the dominoes.  It was a vague sense of togetherness.  While we didn’t talk much about bisexuality, it was amazing and wonderful to be able to look around the group and realize that everyone in the group was like me.  One participant wrote to me to say he finally felt comfortable in a public group.  While it is great to be one letter in the alphabet soup of our movement for equality and dignity, it is a little breathtaking to be a ‘B’ in a veritable sea of ‘B’s. 

 

If you would like to join us, meet at Coffee Social, 113 W Indiana Ave, on Wednesday May 13 and May 27 from 6-8pm.  Dress in a smile and loudly ask where the bisexual people are.   

 

“A normal person is just someone you don’t know real well yet.”

--Robin Ochs, Bisexual Activist and Author www.robinochs.com

I had the great fortune to see k.d. lang's Watershed concert last night at the restored and appropriately gaudy Fox Theater with my wife last night.    hippybear has a great review.  I agree 100% with his assessment and add only that I was laughing and crying throughout the night.

Before the concert, the wife and I shared a leg of lamb, a goat cheese mashed potato dish, and a mushroom sauce that were delicious, thanks to the skilled chef at Vin Rouge.  We attended the Watershed pre-event party hosted by The Inland NW LGBT Center, Inland Northwest Business Association, Odyssey Youth Center, and OutSpokane.  It was a lovely gathering with many familiar faces and some that were new to me.  A lovely gentleman named Steve, who previously found and returned my indispensable thumbdrive, and Bridget Potter, Diva of OutSpokane and other ventures, greeted us to check in.  Representatives from the four organizations, Cat Carrel, Marvo Reguinden, Sandy Williams, and Christopher Lawrence, respectively, made impassioned pitches for shared donations.  It was a very pleasant event.  They auctioned a signed Watershed CD for $500 and announced they'd received another $500 from the Pride Foundation.

Once we were seated for the concert, we found ourselves next to another male/female couple.  At a point in the conversation, the woman in the couple commented that she thought we and they were the only heterosexual couples at the pre-event party.  I was stunned and stupified.  It reminded me how invisible an important part of me is in my own community.  I know that. technically, heterosexual is an accurate term to describe our relationship as we embody different sexes.  But I'm pretty sure her comment was meant to communicate that the people in the relationships are heterosexual.  Hmmmm....

I saw a special on k.d. lang once in which she told that she had decided to not reveal her sexual orientation in order to support her stage/character presence.  Her act as an artist is to entice everyone in the audience regarless of gender.  A revelation of her personal life, could cause some of her audience to become disinterested or put off.  She engages each of us of every gender and sexual orientation.

I saw a shirt today online displaying "100% Bisexual."  This dispels several myths:
Bisexual people don't exist.
Bisexual people are part gay and part straight.
Bisexual people divide their attention between men and women in a measurable fashion.
Bisexual people are confused and don't understand their true sexual orienation.

In truth,:
We exist.
We are not partially or wholly gay or straight.  Bisexuality is a unique and valid sexual orientation.
Bisexuality is complex and not easily described by using ratios and percentages of attraction toward various genders.
We are certain about our sexuality, our social lives, and our attractions.  No need for confusion on our part.

I hate to wear labels, but I may wear this shirt, especially to lgbtqa events, in the future.  It may alleviate some confusion on the part of onlookers and save me some frustration.  It is, after all, a better brand than Wal*mart.

Dave Burdick's piece, "What if water from the sky didn't belong to everyone?", on the Huffington Post today piqued my interest.  It covers the story of a woman who "stole" rainwater, thus diverting it from the local streams and creeks so she could irrigate her small garden.  Ignoring the fact that she will be returning the water to the same ground it would have fallen to, I think it is important to note that the rain she collected was not the rain falling directly to the ground, but rolling off of her home's roof.  It begs the question, If she built her roof to slope only to the North, could her neighbor to the South sue her and the Northerly neighbor to reclaim the diverted water even if she didn't collect the water?

This got me thinking.  In addition to water rights, we apparently own rights to "views."  My grandparents couldn't build a small porch at their beach house 20 years ago because the neighbors to the South felt it would block a small portion of their view of the sand dunes and wetlands.  But in Spokane, we have an anomaly called "Mary's House" that is in the center of the Providence Sacred Heart Medical Center campus.  It is owned by a family that opted not to sell their property to Providence oh, so many years ago.  It is a large house, but is dwarfed by the main hospital, the Women's Center and the Doctor's building.  They apparently weren't able to preserve a right to their view of the city and surrounding mountainous area.  Their view is the medical menagerie in all directions.  This right to a view is apparently subjective and dependent on local building codes and neighborly whim.

But what if the owners of "Mary's House" had solar panels on its roof way back before the hospital engulfed it?  Could the family have blocked Providence from its ambitions based on a right to solar rays.  Obviously, if Providence effectively shut off the sun on "Mary's House" for a good portion of the day, the homeowners would suffer a financial loss because of the lost energy capture.  Maybe a suitable remedy would be to force Providence to place the homeowners solar panels atop the medical center roofs.

If a neighbor's tree grows to shadow my solar panels, can I have it topped.  If a neighbors new bedroom addition catches the rays "meant" for me, will he have to pay me every month to offset my loss?  If my neighbor's addition makes me want to elevate my solar panels, is that enough to earn an exception to building codes?  And what if my local power company figures out how to charge me for my solar panel use instead of buying the energy from me.  It's not far fetched considering they can charge me $5.00 per month for a gas line I don't have, just in case I opt for natural gas someday.

When corporate satellites someday collect and transmit energy to the Earth in satellites so massive in number or size that they blot out the sun, will we have any recourse?  When a thief steals jewelry from my home, I might have cause to shoot the intruder.  But what can I do when someone steals my sunshine away?

The following message was sent to Senator Mark Schoesler (R) of the 9th district.

I took the girls down to Journey's future school, toured it, and filled out some paperwork for her Kindergarten start in the fall.  I paid my wife's union dues.  I paid a past due bill with the community college and left a message with their accounting office in an attempt to get my registration block removed.  I'm taking the girls to my folks' house this afternoon so the morning is less hectic.  I'm seeing my therapist tomorrow and going to an information session for a new co-op.  I'm also going to try to make it to Coffee Social tomorrow.

I don't usually put much stock in my dreams since I don't usually remember them. 

Last night I dreamed I was attending a college English class.  At the end of class a man entered the room and told us that anyone who was married didn't need to pay attention and announced that all unmarried students were invited to the auditorium where the current President, George W. Bush would be speaking.  Somehow I figured out that the President would be encouraging students to consider getting married.  I don't think I figured out how this was part of a dastardly right-wing scheme, I just assumed it was.

So I ran around to my fellow single and married coeds basically begging them to help me protest this government intrusion into our private lives.  I tried to convince them that the government, and especially the President, had no business trying to convince people they should get married. 

Nobody listened.  Now I think about the government-funded "Marriage is Healthy" campaign.  These are the billboards and classes put out by abstinence-champion Teen-Aid (headquartered right here in lovely Spokane).  I love the billboards.  I think they are an excellent marriage equality campaign.  We just need to swap out the pictures with same-sex couples. 

In other news, my three-year old daughter just announced, "I cooked my wedgie."

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"How does my same-sex marriage hurt your marriage?"

Glenn Stanton, Focus on the Family's Director of Social Research and Cultural Affairs (I love that job title!) gave it a whirl and what he came up with is that while he doesn't have a problem with individual same-sex couples marrying, he worries that blanketly allowing same-sex marriage will cause his children to think they aren't a necessary component of marriage.  If his daughters see gay and bisexual men married to each other, they won't see the importance of a woman in a marriage and if his sons see lesbian and bisexual women married to each other, they won't feel they are needed in a marriage.

In reality, what he fears is that if his children see men married and women married, they might think being gay or bisexual is alright.  If his children see that being gay or bisexual is okay, they may want wait twenty years in fear and self-loathing to come out.  They might come out as kids or teenagers and embarrass him into leaving his job as a hatemonger.

And don't get me started about gender.  He claims same-sex marriage will dilute the importance of gender in his children's eyes.  Oh, the horror.  They might not learn that female is only a function of and corollary to male.  They might figure out that in the creation story, Adam and Eve were equally duped and equally punished by their God.  They might realize that when man wrote "man" in the bible, God meant him to write "people."  They might note that it was people their father who ensured that the Equal Rights Amendment to the United States Constitution was doomed.  And if gender is so important, why do they claim otherwise when it comes to the rights and dignity of transgender people?

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• 07:54 What can you tell us about your days with the Unabomber? #
• 08:14 @BodyByChocolate Thanks for the tip re:TweetDeck. I love it. :bit.ly/ILZwj #
• 09:56 RT @leapingwoman: @nprpolitics: NAACP Marks 100 Years tinyurl.com/dftggr (happy birthday NAACP!) #
• 10:10 Who says politicians don't have a sense of humor: "Crisis.Urgent.My son's iphone quit working.World coming to end." bit.ly/c1axc #
• 10:42 @BodyByChocolate re: ping.fm OMG! I have to go change my pants now. How did I not know about this before. I'm in heaven. #
• 11:18 is loving that Andy Kaufman is alive and well twurl.nl/qg75qz #
• 11:43 RT @bilericoproject: New on TBP: A Horrible Anniversary: Lawrence King Killed One Year Ago tinyurl.com/acucwk #
• 12:20 @anibunny Amaretto Sours are the best! I keep thinking I like whiskey sours too, but it never quite tastes right. #
• 15:03 @drnicomartini No official org tweeting, but any Amber Alert tweeted should include a link to source. Else assume false. #

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I watched Joaquin Phoenix on YouTube this morning (thanks to a tip from Dad).  I absolutely loved it.  Throughout, I could only think of the late great Andy Kaufman.  What a pleasure.  I wonder if Andy's explanation of a desire to expand applies to Joaquin.  Ignore all of the conjecture and criticism of Phoenix and watch these two pieces together (not at the exact same time. Letterman is a master in both clips.  These guys couldn't have a better "straight man" than Dave.  First, Andy:
(Has anyone else ever taken up a collection on the Letterman show?)


and then Joaquin:

• 13:17 RT @Feministe Justice for Jason: The Justice for Jason website provides details on ... Jason Vassell tinyurl.com/bsdyfg #
• 16:43 @avflox You guessed it. Our focus on Mexicans is to overwhelming that they divide "aliens" into M and OTM. #
• 16:44 just received his copy of Eyman's new misleading anti-gov't initiative. I thought he was for local control. But now he's going after cities. #
• 00:28 Because people in Illinois don't watch COPS #chase #
• 00:33 #chase so is the chase over and media.myfoxla.com/live/2/ is live while media.myfoxla.com/live/ is replay? #
• 00:42 #chase Get that man some coffee. I hope he's not the pilot. His yawns sound dangerous. #
• 00:49 #chase she sounds very detached -- really wants the helo in the righ spot in case they shoot the driver. #
• 00:58 "Anytime you can get a slightly closer shot without showing anything, that's good." #chase #
• 01:02 #chase Medics on the scene--to call time of death? #
• 01:05 @MustBeBenHughes #chase media.myfoxla.com/live/2/ is live media.myfoxla.com/live/ is replay #
• 01:06 #chase There is the stretcher coming #
• 01:07 #chase "They are not working on him." #
• 01:10 #Chase I want my money back. That did nothing for my moral conscience. #
• 01:13 FOR SALE: 1 White Bentley; minor dents, partial stain on driver side. $50,000 OBO #chase #
• 01:17 @MustBeBenHughes The guy is in transport right now via paramedics who are in no hurry. He's dead. They are clearing the scene. #chase #
• 03:34 reports Gov Blegojevich claims that he would like the tapes of the #bentley #chase played--we will see that he is innocent as he prev said. #
• 04:02 tinyurl.com/d6za5x #

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• 21:53 saw Curious Case of Benjamin Button. It was long, and I wasn't crazy about the intermix of past and present, but all in all good. #
• 23:26 @TerryBain We are your enemies--better to keep us closer. #twitter #

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• 05:07 Retweeting @lezgetreal: Civil Unions one step closer in Hawaii twurl.nl/i06c3r (another reason to escape to a tropical island!) #
• 05:38 @jreilly4261 is ranked 129,485 on Twitterholic.com, and 11 in Spokane, WA, USA! twitterholic.com/jreilly4261/ #

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• 12:37 really likes his new haircut. (I almost typed heircut--that would be something else all together.) #
• 16:30 is recycling paint. I don't know if they recycle or dispose of it. huh... #
• 02:06 @kellidiane We photag every other life cycle event. Why not record the celebration of the transition to life everlasting? #
• 03:06 @SistersTalk Most reputable Universities that I know of in the US require two years of foreign language for admission. #
• 08:41 is wearing red and buying fair trade coffee from locally owned shops. #

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• 21:27 @jerekeys I think we English speakers have difficulty ending a syllable with the "H" sound. The "h" is definitely not silent there. #

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• 13:39 is shedding his shaggy locks. #
• 03:51 stumbles to bed pretending to be on Hawaii time or something West of there. :) #

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• 00:36 Note to self: Do not quote The Day the Earth Stood Still without watching Evil Dead trilogy (plus IV & Name is Bruce). Confusion ensues. #

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• 02:13 is watching doctors smoke on "The Day the Earth Stood Still", not the remake. #
• 02:42 In case Gort is on the Internet somewhere, "Klaatuu Barada Nikto." #

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• 13:21 @chriscurrie You are at Denver *again*, not *still*, right? #
• 13:32 loves it when people include "voting Republican" in their personal definition of "going crazy." #
• 13:43 knows that his Republican friends have a sense of humor. #
• 13:45 wonders what planet he's been seeing in the sky recently. #
• 14:02 is off to enjoy the mindlessness of "Paul Blart: Mall Cop." #

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• 11:11 @womanistmusings We'll trade Obama's press se for Nova Scotia. Oh, wait, you don't want Obama's press sec. Oops. Can we have NS anyway? #
• 11:19 @BodyByChocolate Maybe brick & mortar should carry less inv and use kiosks & Internet more to supp in-store sales--short hrs w ext/kiosk? #
• 11:22 @lezzymom Has HRC made uncompromising promise to inclusive ENDA yet? Until they earn back my trust, NGTLF gets all my money. #

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• 23:11 DTV transition extension defeated. Analog will still go away Feb 17, 2009. #

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• 00:55 is pissed off a 93 year old WWII Veteran froze to death in his own home because of a $1000 unpaid heat bill and No one claims responsibility #

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• 13:07 The Spokane Mayor's office announced Monday it will slowdown construction of new homes due to elimination of city jobs. #
• 13:10 The Spokane Mayor's office announced Monday it will eliminate construction of new homes due to the slowdown in jobs. #
• 14:46 is feeling productive today, but not too productive. #
• 01:23 installed new dishwasher and restored flow from frozen pipes. #

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• 22:34 feels sort of dirty about enjoying "The Last Templar" on NBC tonight. Conspiracy trash movies are the best. #
• 23:01 Shooting in NE Spokane County: Victim's truck has been transported to Providence Sacred Heart Med Ctr with a gunshot wound. #
• 23:54 The problem with wearing tights and a cape is wear to put the car keys. #
• 01:39 watches The Bourne Supremacy and wishes he had other Bourne movies that he can't remember the plots of (dangling preposition alert). #
• 03:59 is trying to find where Hiram Forbes was in 1860. According to the US Census he wasn't home. At war? Hmmmm... #
• 05:20 is up too late--should have taken a traz hours ago. ugh. Maybe I can snag three hours before a wee one wakes up. g'night. #

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• 23:08 wonders the name of the techno/country remix song featuring a classic female country song and a song about cows. Anyone? #
• 23:54 listens to "Justified & Ancient (Stand by the JAMs)" by KLF feat. Tammy Wynette thanks to Opie. tinyurl.com/yrrug9 #
• 02:54 is finding himself steeped in Discordianism. #

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• 15:24 called Gregoire's office & asked she reinstate 70 CSO nurses at $3600/yr apiece to ensure birth control available tinyurl.com/cgpqjm #
• 16:39 sends message to WA state: Accept cheap money for obvious need! tinyurl.com/cwuxom #
• 20:31 is watching "Swing Vote." Apparently it isn't bisexual porn. Hmmmmm..... #
• 00:02 loves his wife mightily. (Don't want to get up anyone's status ire.) #

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